How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows

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Wedding vows are promises that a couple makes to one another. They can be traditional, modern, or a little bit of both. Traditional vows are those lines we’ve all heard on TV or at the cinema, and they go something like “I take you… in sickness and health... etc. And while they are classic, they may not represent you both as a couple. Which is why its worth thinking about writing your own modern wedding vows.

Writing your own wedding vows will quickly make your ceremony feel more personal, and that moment standing together even more unforgettable. But it's a tremendous undertaking, summing up your love, dreams, and promises to a partner in a few short lines. And it can actually be a little overwhelming. However, we believe it's well worth the effort! Because this is your chance to tell your story. Give your guests a peek into what makes your relationship unique, and share some meaningful words with the person you love.

If you are struggling with the composition of your wedding vows, and would like some help writing those important lines, we've got some top tips that'll help you get started.

1. Start with a list

Write a list of memories you treasure that have cute or funny anecdotes attached. Moments you're happy to share. This list could become or inspire your opening paragraph, sharing how and why you fell in love.

2. Say I love you, your way

Perhaps you have a favourite song, a love poem you've written, or a shared movie scene that you both love. Adding it to your wedding vows is a great way to honour a moment that’s played a special role in your love story. And may help others relate better to your feelings.

3. Share how your partner makes you better

Soulmates improve how each other feel, and together they grow stronger. Share what has changed or improved in you, as a person, since your partner arrived in your life.

4. Time to make real promises

Wedding vows are all about making promises, and not just romantic and idealistic ones. Real things that the two of you should aim for; from the most basic promise of being there for each other through thick and thin, to taking out the rubbish, and never forgetting to kiss goodbye.

5. Do not overthink

It’s fine to review and change some bits of your original draft, but keep your vows as close as possible to how you expressed it the first time you composed those lines.

6. Keep it short:

Leave out unnecessary details. Your guests (or your partner) will likely not want to hear about what you wore to your first date, or how you were late because you were stuck in traffic - save that for the speech! In general, people's attention span is short. So keep it snappy, and you'll keep it memorable.

7. Practice your wedding vows

Read your wedding vows aloud, so you'll know where you need to pause to make them coherent and meaningful. Ask a friend for help, if needed.

8. Look at your partner

While reading, avoid looking at the officiant, guests, or the paper in front of you as much as possible. You are making promises to the person you are marrying; look as often as possible into their eyes.