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How to Choose Your Bridesmaids & Some Great Ways to Ask Them!

Choosing your bridesmaids has never been easier, or more fun!

You’d think selecting your bridesmaids would be the easiest part of getting married, right? Not always. We have spoken to countless brides over the years who found the process incredibly difficult, and actually a little bit stressful. And that's before they even start shopping for bridesmaids dresses!

How to choose your bridesmaids

Bridesmaids play a massive role in a typical wedding day, so it’s important to select the right individuals. Friends and family members who are prepared to go through this momentous occasion with you, and deserve to have a front-row seat.

How to Choose Your Bridesmaids

What is the best way to choose your bridesmaids? How do you get past the tricky parts? Here are our tips to help you make the right decision!


It’s your decision. Don’t allow yourself to be rushed into anything, and don’t let people pressure you. If you keep getting asked about who's being picked, just tell people you haven’t decided yet. And definitely don’t ask someone just because you feel they've put you on the spot!

Make the right decision now, and it’ll save you a lot of trouble further down the line.


If you have a close family, then you've got a ready-made bridal party, and that's one way to make your bridesmaids decision a lot easier. But that doesn't mean you can't include friends too. Or perhaps your future sister-in-law or a friend on your partner’s side. As long as you have a good relationship with them, it can be a really sweet gesture to bring people into your gang from your partner's side. Just don’t feel obligated!

When it comes to friends, consider picking those you’ve had a long-term friendship with.


Stay true to what you believe in. You can’t please everyone, and there will always be someone who gets their feelings hurt. But if you have a good reason for not asking someone, all you need to do is communicate that.


You don’t have to stick to tradition. You might decide to have no bridesmaids at all. Or maybe you have a close male friend who you'd love to have with you on the day? Or why not just have flower girls? Do whatever feels right for you. It's your big day after all!

Picked the perfect big day gang? Here's some fun bridesmaid proposal ideas?


Looking for a simple, heartfelt way to ask your leading ladies to be part of your wedding party? A DIY card is a perfect way to add a personal touch to your bridesmaid proposal. This traditional proposal is a wonderful way to thank your bridesmaids for being there for you.


A customised coffee mug is a creative, fun way to surprise your bridesmaids-to-be. They won’t be able to stop smiling when they discover their invitation at the bottom of their morning coffee or tea!

will you be my bridesmaid mug


Show your special girls how much you need them with a thoughtful piece of jewellery! Nothing says 'I love you' like a stunning, sparkly piece that can also be worn down the aisle.


Give your bridesmaids the gift of relaxation with a kit filled with essential oils, bath bombs and delicious lotions. Nothing like a relaxing bubble bath after dancing the night away on your big day!

best gifts for bridesmaids


Is there anything better than a bottle of chilled rosé and a box of quality chocolate? We don’t think so, and your bridesmaids will probably agree! Open a bottle of wine and have a girly evening of wedding planning after giving your bridesmaids the perfect DIY goodie basket.


Take your childhood friends on a trip back in time with a personalised gift box. You may need to grab the tissues because this heartfelt bridesmaid proposal is sure to be a tearjerker. Fill the box with pictures of the two of you and plenty of their favourite things!

Find the perfect bridesmaids for your wedding at Brides & Bustles! Have a look at our bridesmaids dresses section here.


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