We think it’s absolutely wonderful that you’re taking time out of your busy wedding planning schedule to find ways to make your bridesmaids feel special.
Your bridesmaids are your rock during the wedding planning process and your actual wedding day. They’re your go-to-girls and you couldn’t be without them, so make sure they know how much you need them and love them in these extra special ways!
We hope your bridesmaids already feel pretty special that you have chosen them to play such an important part in your wedding. However, even if they're your sister, best friend from school or that colleague you can't live without they still deserve to know how special they are to you - plus it means they'll have no issue in going that extra mile for you on the day.
ASK THEM IN A SPECIAL WAY
First things first, you need to ask them to be your bridesmaid. It’s the perfect way to begin the planning and you don’t have to bust your budget. We love the idea of putting together a little box of goodies, full of stuff that represents your friendship together. This could be sentimental photos, a mixtape, concert tickets… whatever you can think of! All you need to do now is write a short but sweet message that says why you are choosing her to be your bridesmaid. There are so many options on the market now so delve through Etsy and get something beautiful and ready made or do it yourself by sourcing materials on Ebay for example.
Don’t forget that your bridesmaids probably won’t all know each other and inevitably, this can sometimes lead to awkward silences and uncomfortable small talk. Introduce them to one another – what better excuse to call for a girly day or night out! If this proves difficult due to distance, use social media to get everyone talking. Creating a group on WhatsApp is a great way for everyone to get to know each other and to keep up to date with all the plans you’ve got going on. You never know, it could be the start to some new and unexpected friendships!
LISTEN TO YOUR BRIDESMAIDS IDEAS
Weddings bring out the wedding planner in all of us – we all have big ideas in our heads of what we want and what we don’t want (thank you Pinterest...!). But be sure to involve your girls in the wedding planning process and ask their opinions. It’s their duty as bridesmaid to help you out and to help give you extra ideas and inspo. Don’t dismiss their ideas straight away just because it’s not what you had in your head! If you shoot them down straight away, you might just miss out on a winning idea for your wedding! They might also feel unappreciated and as if they are getting in the way – no one wants to make their bridesmaids feel like that!
SHOP THOSE PERFECT DRESSES
So you’ve probably already chosen the theme for your wedding and envisioned a bridesmaid dress design that fits in with it, but it’s vital that you take your girlfriends shopping with you to get their dresses. You’ve got to make sure they’re happy with your choice. Explain what your vision for the day is and show them the dress you’d like them to wear, then listen to what they have to say. They have to feel comfortable in it and if they don’t they won’t enjoy your special day quite as much. Put yourself in their position, you would want to be happy in a dress that feels right so they should too.
RELAX THE PROCESS
Both you and your girls need to take time out during the wedding planning and have a little bit of relaxation time. Taking your BFFs on a spa break or even a night in with a bottle (or two) of wine and a couple of face masks is the perfect way to wind down. It also means you will all look and feel beautiful on your big day! Sometimes planning a wedding can feel like a second job but it shouldn't, taking stock and enjoying the process will only help in creating the perfect wedding day for you and your bridesmaids.
Before your special day is over, thank your bridesmaids personally – they will really appreciate this. Take a few moments out of your day to let them know how great they’ve been, and show your love! Maybe even give them a pretty little gift to show it! Oh, and make sure you also get some fab photographs! A framed group picture is a gorgeous memento of the day when it’s over.
COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR GIRLS
Weddings can put a lot of strain on you, with a million and one things to organise it’s easy for the pressure to get to you. If you feel overwhelmed talk to your bridesmaids, tell them how you feel. Your bridesmaids will be sympathetic towards you and your situation. Rather that than bottle it up and let it all out in one big bridezilla moment! Roar!!
Gifts are traditional and a wonderful way to show someone how much you appreciate their help, but personalised gifts makes the receiver feel extra special. When you decided to give your bridesmaids their gift is entirely up to you, if it’s something they can wear to the wedding, present it to them in the morning. Or, plan an evening out or a meal where you can all reminisce on your favourite part of the wedding and present them with their gifts. Big or small, its literally the thought that counts!
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